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New Year, New Goals and Priorities

I find it fascinating how easily and naturally we slip into recap mode as a year on the calendar winds down. We reevaluate, take stock and look back at what has worked and what hasn’t and we begin pondering our options, rethinking decisions and choices. There are definite phases and passages to life.

For me the last several years have been about attracting new clients and the emphasis has been on growth. It has been fun and exciting in the fast lane.

My GPS is re-calculating

A few unexpected, serendipitous events have helped me to realize that I want more time for friends and family. Relationships, both on a personal and a professional level, have risen to the top of my priority list. Quality is more meaningful than quantity.

The importance of balance

I find that I want to concentrate on better serving existing clients. I also need time for other things and for people who have been neglected. Life needs to look different in 2014. When I feel restless it is an indication that it is time to expand some things and rein in others.

This is going to be a year of transition

How are you approaching 2014? Is there a course correction on your horizon?

Unless you are ‘of a certain age’ you will not relate to Guy Lombardo’s orchestra playing Auld Lang Syne. You may even have to be Canadian. I sat with my parents on many a New Year’s Eve and listened to the old year ushered out to this tune. Out with the old.



Charlie Doesn’t Live Here Any More- Peanuts and Bullying

I first posted this about a year ago. Recently someone on Facebook began a movement to have It’s The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown banned from TV this year because she feels it promotes bullying. I grew up loving Charlie Brown, but she has a point. A point I caught on to in my own life last year. Here is the post:

How many Charlie Brown fans are out there? Who else grew up anticipating the seasonal specials on television, and carried that eagerness into adulthood, safely concealed within the inner child?

Most of Charlie’s fans literally relate to him. He taps an inner suspicious insecurity that whispers into ears and creates performance anxiety in all walks of life.  Despite clear and irrefutable evidence of a person’s capability in one or more areas, that little Charlie sitting on his shoulder will always misread a situation and tell him he made a total fool of himself.

If you give voice to it, and allow others to realize how much you undervalue yourself, you diminish your estate in the eyes of other people and your self-pronounced assessments become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Have you ever come away from a meeting or gathering convinced that the whole world now knows what a lunk head you are?  Have you pondered extricating yourself from the group or committee, only to be astounded by the feedback suggesting that you did an admirable job and your esteem in the eyes of others has been elevated?

You limit yourself when you maintain an underdog mind set. You squander the talents and gifts bestowed upon you at birth by genetics and celestial power. You sabotage your own potential. You may even subconsciously do it thinking it will speed the process up since it is inevitable anyway. Give your head a shake! Gently.

No more self-flagellation.